You May Think He Is the One, but What If He's Not?

Feeling in love is not the same as being in a love relationship. When feelings of love take you over you are fixated on one person being the one for you. You may believe with all of your being that the guy you like right now is the one.

Without realizing it, you are now psychologically attached to an outcome that he is the one. But you could be forcing it to be him and causing yourself lots of pain and suffering. You could even end up forcing it to work that you even marry him, but because you were attached to the outcome, you will never know if he really was the one.

When he says he will call you sometime, immediately you register in your mind that this is "good" or "bad." Using labels like these, you are attempting to predict the future. If you believe it is bad that he doesn't give you a specific day he will call you, you have already attached yourself to the idea that he is the one for you. Why not let it be neutral and trust that if he is the right one, he will call, and if he is not the right one, then he will quietly go away to leave you open to receive the one who is right for you. The negative emotions you feel when you are convinced he is the right one and doesn't call is a direct result of your attachment to a specific outcome. Alternatively, if you let the event stay neutral, not knowing if him calling again is the best for you, you let trust and faith in the universe keep you hopeful as you hold the vision that your true love is also seeking you. In this way, things will turn out for the best for you and your true love.

So often in dating, we try to predict the future that we believe is best for us. The truth is we as humans can not really know what the best outcome is for us. We must remain open to opportunities in the present moment. In dating, you must remain unattached to the outcome and know that whatever happens you will be okay. In the long run, if you forced a relationship with someone, over time all it will do is breed resentment in him and you will have created a relationship that is unhappy and unfulfilling for yourself.

The one that is really the one will always be there, that's how you know he's the one. He will be there because he wants to be there, and not because of your turbulent emotions of worrying and being upset. All the negative energy you emit will bring you more of the same, more worry and being upset. The energy of worrying and being upset is just focusing on the energy that you really don't believe the universe is on your side and that your true love is actively seeking you.

Since we have a choice, why not focus on having the faith that the right one for you is actively seeking you. You may never meet him if you force yourself to stay with someone who is not right for you and try to make it work out. Why would you sabotage your own happiness?

Stay open to what opportunities offer themselves to you and cultivate the faith that the right one will not need any forcing or convincing from you. He will have the desire to want be in a fulfilling love relationship with you because of his own desire to be in a relationship. A desire he had all on his own way before he even knew you existed.