Unconsciously, Are You Avoiding a Good Love Relationship?

You are asking yourself, "Am I avoiding a good love relationship?" How am I doing that?

It doesn't help you much when you tell yourself, "The guy that is good for me, I just don't feel any chemistry with."

When I was single, this was my answer for why I wasn't in a relationship. If you find yourself in the next 5 descriptions, you are very possibly unconsciously avoiding relationships. Here they are:

1)You tell yourself he's too nice. You meet someone who is attracted to you and you think he's cute. He's interested in and you and humorous and he asks you out. You agree and you both have a fabulous time talking and laughing. As the evening draws near, he pays the check and offers to walk you to your car. You agree and you both continue walking to your car. On the way he stops by his truck and pulls out a bouquet of roses. Instantly your feet start backing up and you feel cornered. You notice you feel uncomfortable with the ease of liking he has for you. You feel he's too smothering. You feel he's coming on too strong. You feel he would do anything to please you, and that repels you.

2) You see only the magnified imperfections. You meet someone you feel comfortable with. You feel you can trust him and you feel this is going somewhere for you. But somehow at the last minute you can't go through with the second date because you keep remembering how his nose crinkles and it disgusts you. You have no idea why but it keeps you from going through the second date with him.

3) You're bored out of your mind. After a few dates with someone who has treated you right, you keep saying to yourself, I am bored out of my mind. You keep hoping your date will entertain you and keep you out of your boredom slump.

4) You screen out the good ones. You can do this by simply not seeing any men would be good for you in a relationship. Someone worthy of your attention does even enter your radar. You have a filter to not see them visually. You can only see men who would be unavailable for a long term relationship with you.

5) Your checklist is too narrow. You have specifics for your ideal that include eye color, height, or other traits that are trivial and have not been examined. Sometimes these preferences are based on impressions made in childhood that are unnecessarily limiting what you believe you are attracted to. These traits can be problematic when you are blinded by these physical traits so much you cannot see the undesirable or abusive behaviors of the person you are with. You might also feel that your list is too restricting, it might be time to revise it.

If you find yourself in these descriptions, you may have a pattern of avoiding relationships. It might be time to study your unconscious mind to reveal why you are avoiding healthy, fulfilling love.